Strength-based development - who does not want it?
Autumn, September and many have started their projects before autumn. Maybe it's at work, maybe it's exercising or finding a new direction in life?
Whatever it is, you want to use your strengths, which you are good at. That's when it goes easy and it feels right. It does not mean that it is without tension and a personal effort by you. Notice the difference between effort and tension. Effort means you feel that you are more in battle and there is some doubt if you will be able to cope with the situation. In tension there is a huge willingness effort and the underlying feeling is that you will, if you really want to, solve the challenge you have before you.
We all know this intuitively, the question is whether we consciously can make a choice to let go of the game and go more in flow? And yes … you can!
It's about getting more aware of your strengths and making sure you use more of them than your pitfalls. Pitfalls are when we have exaggerated our strengths and we fall on our own accord so to speak.
Imagine a strength you have, it can be anything, calm, empathetic, driven, entrepreneurial, etc. Think of one of your main strengths. If you find it hard to find it, consider the feedback you received through life.
As an aid you can enter and do the strength-based test on my website. There you will get your five main strengths länk
Now take one of your strengths and consider how to use it. Give your own examples of when you last used this force and then wonder what your pitfall might be like. It is when we exaggerate our strength as we put kicks in the wheel for ourselves. Say that we exaggerate the power to be ambitious. What then?
Well, we become over-ambitious and will do things even more, even better and a feeling of never feeling satisfied with their results will come true.
What does it lead to?
Eventually you will feel more and more exhausted and eventually your imbalance will be so great that you feel physical and / or mental symptoms. Burnout is an extreme symptom of having long been found in its pitfalls.
When you get into a situation where you create a big imbalance so that you get sick, you need to stop and realize that there is something you need to learn from this situation.
The question is WHAT do you need to learn?
If you think about which of your forces have taken you to the pitfall, you can see what your learning is and what challenge you have in front of you to get from there.
In the example of strength ambitious, a learning can be to make sure to be good enough, to be ambitious enough simply. Here lies the challenge itself; What are you going to do differently to get back to your strength?
It may be to have a deadline for yourself, which says to you, I'll work with this, then I'll leave it and think I've done what I could. It may be to be better at asking for help. It may be better to see what I want to be ambitious about and what can I let go and let others get over.
If your challenge does not feel difficult and challenging, then you have not found it yet.
Maybe you need help to get through your challenge? Sometimes it's been a strong programming for many years, which means that we are working in a way that does not always build us up. Just this programming we usually got with us as very young children, when we had no opportunity and experience to question so much.
But now you can!
Now you can ask yourself what really favors and builds you up. If you are a leader or parent then you can think about the strengths your employees or children have and help them find them and be right in their strengths and not in their pitfalls.
One way to understand if you've managed to get closer to your strengths is to look at the characteristics of others that often triggers you.
In this case, with the property ambitious, one can ask what really can trigger. How about lazy?
Being ambitious can be a deadly sin for an ambitious person. If we trigger much and intensively on others, think about what characteristics of them you get started. It is their strengths, but they have exaggerated. To be lazy is a pitfall but the strength is to be calm.
So when we complain about others, it's really their strengths you complain about but they've exaggerated. Just as with your strengths you exaggerate, your strengths become what strikes you and you do not create your best opportunity for success, neither personally nor at work.
We may call it as having an allergy to certain behaviors.
Think about the characteristics of others with whom you have an allergy that triggers you. It says more about you, even if you do not have to like their characteristics, but it shows you are probably more in your pitfalls than in your strengths.
The balance occurs when I do not trigger as much of the characteristics of others, even if they are the opposite of my strengths. It does not mean you let go and do not care, but you can be far more constructive in your action when you deal with these situations.
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Good luck to immerse yourself in your strengths!